Tuesday, June 19, 2012

What's Sexy?



1. Building sexual tension is sexy.

2. The word "womb" isn't sexy.

3. Creating sexual anticipation is sexy.

4. The word "anus" isn't sexy.

5. Getting inside your characters' heads and connecting with their emotions is sexy.

6. An 85-page sex scene isn't sexy. It's boring. It's tedious. It's like watching a never-ending porno movie.

7. Holding hands is sexy.

8. Reading a paint-by-numbers sex scene, now step one, now step two, now stab me in the eye please, isn't sexy. It's dry, flat and boring.

9. A really incredible kiss is sexy. Sex-ay, Baby!

10. Too much inane graphic detail isn't sexy. I read something recently that talked about the "left side of her clit." The left side. Not the right side. Cause that's super important, I'm sure.

11. Touching a character's face is sexy. Hands are sexy.

12. "Drenched pussy" is not sexy. (I hope my mother isn't reading this post).

13. Love is sexy.

14. The word "labia" isn't sexy. Just saying.

15. Romance is sexy.

16. Describing body parts like a medical professor teaching a reproductive organ class isn't sexy.

17. Lumberjacks are sexy.

18. Humping before we get to know the characters is not sexy.

19. Beards are super sexy. (You knew that one was coming, right?)

20. The word "gland" isn't sexy.


Interestingly enough, one of the sexiest scenes I've ever read was only one page long, had nothing explicit, the characters had almost all of their clothes on, and the heroine was a virgin.

You don't need a lot of graphic description for a sex scene. Sometimes just the opposite is more effective.

"I didn't know.....when you....and then I....I didn't know we could do.....what we did....I didn't know."

(Who remembers what book this quote is from? :^)

Penelope

17 comments:

Tom Stronach said...

Ishbel and I are always holding hands and she touches my face regularly, normally when slapping me down, does that count, it annoys her when I ask for more, why is that, do you think?

Kaetrin said...

Gland is definitely not a sexy word! But I think words like labia and penis, testicles and vagina can be very sexy in the hands of a talented author (pun intended). Pamela Clare does this well I think, for example. Mostly I am in agreement with your list though.

I don't know the book the quote is from I'm afraid. Plus, I'm a reader who tends to like things more spelled out rather than hinted at.

What book was it that had the one page sexy virgin scene?

Steph from fangswandsandfairydust.com said...

I prefer "vagina" to the "Cu" word. Is the left side of the charater's clit really far from the right side? Maybe it has its own zip code and the author was afraid the other character's body parts would get lost. The same sex over and over is not sexy unless it's somewhere else. But if there's only one scene let's label it "sex scene" and just refer back to it. (In the boat house he too off her dress and, see page 45."

Steph from fangswandsandfairydust.com said...

or "took" -- "too" isn't sexy

Penelope said...

Hi Tom! I have a "thing" about holding hands....it's the most basic, sweet, romantic, sexy gesture two people can do. Swoony! I think it's awesome that you and Ishbel hold hands. ;^)

Penelope said...

Kaetrin....I just finished reading Lorelei James' book All Jacked Up, and she uses labia and clit, etc etc...and it works great. Just depends on the scene, really. But there are times when an author uses those terms and it sounds too clinical. I also think that an author does not need to spell out every single detail of a sex scene...sometimes that squashes the sexiness right out of it.

Penelope said...

Oh, Kaetrin....the sexy virgin scene is from an old Amanda Quick book....I can't remember which one. I'll have to look it up. And the quote....think Julie Garwood!

Penelope said...

Steph....the sexual tension needs to grow and develop believably over the course of the book. A "sex" scene doesn't need to actually have intercourse. Sometimes a hot kiss scene is just as good....and sexy! I don't mind if there is only one "major" sex scene, if there are other hot scenes leading up to it. ;^)

Julia Barrett said...

Thanks, Penny. Because the right side of my clit was feeling left out. Oh god. How I hate clinical never-ending sex scenes.
I want the suggestion of sex, the feelings of arousal, the scent, the touch, the sounds...
I don't need textbook sex. IMO very few authors can actually get away with it-- mostly because they are damn good writers.

Penelope said...

Yes, Julia....we don't need a sex manual. We need sexy. I think the scenes with the most intense emotional connection are always the sexiest. Don't skimp on the emotional part!

Tasha B. said...

I do wish there was more kissing in romance novels.

And what book inspired this post, perchance? :)

Lindsay Kiernan said...

Sometimes less is more. SO true.

Penelope said...

Hey Tasha....Inspired by a mix of good, bad and everything in between that I've been reading recently.

Penelope said...

I agree, Lindsay!

Juju at Tales of Whimsy.com said...

O girl you are sooo right about what's not sexy. I hate the word womb.

Penelope said...

Hi Juju! "Womb" is a little bit too maternal, I think. Heeee!

Handy Man, Crafty Woman said...

The word "turgid" makes me feel ill. *uck*

Yeah, there's not enough Good Old Fashioned KISSING sometimes, is there?!?!

I also love hand holding and face touching. And hair touching. *sigh*